Sunday, 11 May 2008

Trust and lack thereof.

Trust in me,
Just in me
Shut your eyes
And trust in me
You can sleep
Safe and sound
Knowing I am around

We all know the story in the Jungle Book of the snake who hypnotises Mowgli into a false sense of security and then tries to eat him. The world is full of snakes who we start to trust, just before they turn around and stab us in the back. Sometimes these people probably don't even realise what they're doing. I'm sure the people in the story I'm about to tell you don't even remember what happened, and if they're minds did wander to it for just a second, they'd probably assume that I'd forgotten too. However, I'm the kind of person who finds it hard to forget when I've been knifed in the back. Let's begin:

The Scene: A secondary school.
The time Period: A couple of weeks before the Summer holidays.
The Characters: A group of friends. Main four characters are; Blonde #1, Blonde #2, Red and DarkBrown. Other characters in the group will be collectively referred to as Rainbow . Small reference to another member of Rainbow who will be referred to as LightBrown.

Let the Show begin.

Blonde #1 was very upset. Blonde #2 always made jokes about her weight in front of her. Blonde #2 didn't mean these in a serious way, but her humour was getting Blonde #1 very down. Blonde #1 had been friends with Red since primary school, so she asked Red to speak to Blonde #2 and ask her nicely to stop making jokes about Blonde #1's weight, as it was upsetting her. So, as Red could see how this was making Blonde #1 feel, she agreed to speak to Blonde #2 the next time the jokes came up.
When this happened, Blonde #2 accused Red of taking it too seriously and insisted that it was just a joke. Red told Blonde #2 that she understood this, but felt that it wasn't very good for Blonde #1's self-esteem and besides, Blonde #1 had asked her herself. Blonde #2 got very angry with Red and told her that she was being stupid. Blonde #2 and Red had a 'falling-out' and could barely stand to be in the same room (which is interesting because before hand, Blonde #2 and Red got on very well). However, this didn't stay just between Blonde #2 and Red. Rainbow decided to take Blonde #2's side, even though Red was just trying to stick up for a friend. Funnily enough, Rainbow included Blonde #1, even though it was her fault that Red got excluded in the first place and Red had been trying to help her out. The only one of Rainbow who was still speaking to Red was DarkBrown. DarkBrown understood what Red had been trying to do and stood by her, like all friends should. However, DarkBrown was going on holiday just before Summer, and therefore wouldn't be with Red for the last 2 weeks of school. Those last 2 weeks where some of the loneliest in Red's life. All of Rainbow (including Blonde #1) was ignoring her and for those 2 weeks, Red hardly spoke at all. Just before the beginning of the Summer holidays, something happened to make all of Rainbow (grudgingly) start speaking to Red again. There was a prize giving assembly and Red won an award for Art. Instead of congratulating her, Rainbow approached Red and said "We all thought that LightBrown should have won the prize for Art."
But at least they started speaking again, right?

Red never got an apology from anyone in Rainbow. Not even from Blonde #1.

Obviously this isn't the only incident where I've had my trust broken. I've been cheated on twice, once where my b/f cheated on me with my best friend. I trusted her more than anyone else and she wasn't even the one to tell me that they were going out, another friend did that for her. I didn't get an apology from her either.
I hope that all of 'Rainbow' read this.
Here's to all those people who think it's alright to betray the trust of others.
Kampai.

3 comments:

Das said...

It's amazing how sometimes situations can turn against people who are just trying to help and they end up becoming the victim themselves.

Personally I absolutely, 100% believe trust to be the most important aspect of any relationship, be it just friendship or more intimate, and for the record you are one of the few people (ok 2) that i trust unconditionally.

Moustache Fever said...

I find it amazing how different our views of "broken trust" are. I'm not meaning that in a bad way at all. It made me smile in fact, that we all have our own ideas of what hurt and trust are.

Das said...

Well ofc they are, all humans are different so only natural we all have our own way of looking at things.